Positive affirmations help public speaking

I was doing some work with a client recently and recommended the use of positive affirmations to build public speaking self-confidence.  The client had never heard of positive affirmations so I did a little digging on the internet and have found a site that explains them quite well: http://www.successconsciousness.com/index_00000a.htm.  I don’t agree with everything on the site but it does provide a very simple, succinct definition of what positive affirmations are and how to use them.

 

You don’t have to buy anything

There is a plethora of sites on positive affirmations but, like most websites, they are aimed at trying to sell you something. You don’t have to buy anything to use positive affirmations effectively. You simply need to think positively, be realistic and be disciplined enough to repeat your affirmations often.

 

They nurture positive thought loops

Positive affirmations are valuable because most people have a head full of negative self-thoughts that were placed there by others, either intentionally or inadvertently. People say hurtful, diminishing things and, too often, we absorb them indiscriminately . . . and the negative thought loops begin. Positive affirmations do the exact opposite. They nurture positive thought loops that are based on the very real positive traits we embody. Those thought loops remind us of who we really are on an ongoing basis and, with repetition, they replace negative thoughts that limit us and make us vulnerable.

 

We’ve been taught to be humble

One of the hardest parts of starting to use positive affirmations is overcoming the uncomfortable feeling that we’re inflating our egos or spawning arrogance. That’s because we’ve been taught to be humble, to “stay in your place”, to listen and obey. Those admonitions are valuable for small – and not so small – children who need mature guidance. But in the adult world there are ongoing challenges that require judgement, courage and confidence, all of which require us to believe in ourselves. And that’s pretty difficult to do if you’re repeating negative statements to yourself all day, every day. The exact opposite is true if you’re repeating true, positive statements.

 

They really work

Obviously, your affirmations have to be real. Otherwise you’re deluding yourself. But the problem is that most people have covered their positive traits with so many negative thoughts that they can’t even find their positivity anymore. Positive affirmations can change that. And yes, they really work. You’ll need to be honest, disciplined and give the process a little time to do its work and it will deliver.

 

Concentrate on what you have

As I mentioned, I have some issues with the article I’m providing, even though it provides a very adequate definition of positive affirmations. Most of my issues are embodied in the list of affirmations provided. It almost reads like a wish list of what the speaker wants but does not currently have. I prefer to concentrate on what you currently have but do not believe strongly enough.

 

It helps your self-image

For example: I am strong. I am a good mother/father. I am a good husband/wife. I am intelligent. I am a hard worker. I am a leader. I am compassionate. I can forgive. I am attractive (I didn’t say you were Brad Pitt or Angelina Jolie – just “attractive J”. Believe me, it helps your self-image when you recognize and acknowledge that).

 

Smile at yourself

Feel free to use any of the positive affirmations I’ve suggested to get you started. But start. The sooner, the better. It’s a good idea, if it works into your daily routine, to stand in front of a mirror to recite your affirmations. You don’t have to say them out loud; you can just think them to yourself if privacy is an issue. And when you’re doing it, smile at yourself and remind yourself that you like what you see. I suggest you start with about five and add to them on an ongoing basis. It’s also a good idea to write them down and refer to them from time to time.

 

Enjoy!

Perhaps the most important thing is to enjoy them. We tend to avoid things we find unpleasant. Positive affirmations should be a joy, not a chore.

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Public Speaking vs. Insensitivity

My public speaking and presentation training practice deals a lot with the fallout from insensitive people. And that’s because we often define ourselves based on the comments of insensitive people.

We all have them

We all have insensitive people in our lives, and they’re insidious. They dig into insecurities to give them life. And those insecurities can haunt us long after the insensitive person has moved on, and if you think that doesn’t affect our public speaking and presentation abilities, guess again.

It’s insecurity

So, why are some people so insensitive to other people’s feelings? I don’t have a definitive answer to that one, but in my experience it’s usually based on insecurity and the need to overcompensate for feelings of inadequacy. And when we call the offenders on their abuse the fallout can permanently damage important relationships. So we hold back, because many of these people are central to our sense of clan and community.

I see the damage

I see the damage insensitive people wreak in my public speaking and presentation training practice. I see it in the person who is bursting with passion and terrified to stand up to tell the world about it. I see it in highly capable people who have been told in innumerable ways that they are inadequate. I see it in the stress of people so deeply imbued with criticism and bullying that they are too paralyzed to even try to communicate, influence others and improve their world.

I do something about it

I try to do something about it. I encourage people to put their oppressors – and the insecurities they engender – in their proper place. I encourage them to act and think positively, regardless of what they hear, to build invisible fences between themselves and their antagonists.

It’s difficult

I’ve been bullied. I’ve been emotionally blackmailed. I continue to experience it from time to time. It’s difficult to deal with for any of us because, on many levels, we feel helpless. We’re damned if we engage our antagonists and damned if we don’t.

What to do

So here’s what I suggest we do: Instead of creating a scene, consider the source. What qualifies these people to make their comments? In my experience, the answer is “nothing at all”. So if they’re unqualified to comment, why give them credence?

Dump the garbage

The next thing to do is dump the garbage. As soon as we have the opportunity, we need to dump that crap and get on with the positive elements in our lives. And we can do that by talking to someone who understands. We can write about it, we can exercise, do yoga, meditate, play an instrument –anything that helps to cleanse our souls.

 

Avoid them

My favourite strategy is simply to avoid dealing with negative people as much as possible. It’s a big world and there are countless creative, exciting, positive people out there. So why would I want to hang out with frightened, angry individuals whose negative view of the world reduces them and everyone around them? I simply don’t do it if I can avoid it.

 

We’re terrified to speak

So what does all of this have to do with public speaking? Everything. Many of us are so accustomed to being criticized and bullied that we’re terrified to speak up. And in most cases, those perceptions have been visited upon us by others, most of whom had no idea what they were inflicting upon us.

 

You’re not what other people say

So here’s my message to you: You’re not what other people say you are. You’re a combination of what you believe you are and what you do for others. How does that relate to public speaking? Here’s how: the person who has the passion, drive and confidence to deliver something of value possesses the power to change their world for the better.

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Public speaking’s a lot like judo . . .

It’s interesting how some things apply to disciplines as different as public speaking and self defense. My friend Ray Litvak , who develops awesome web content at www.writingwebwords.com has joined with a partner to open Budokai Judo Club, a judo club in North York, as a second business. What I find interesting about what Ray does as a judo instructor and what I do as a public speaking trainer is that the same issues apply to public speaking and presentation training as they do to learning judo.

Confirmation again

Ray publishes a blog on Budokai’s website and as I read one of his first posts I found confirmation yet again of what I’ve said for many years: that most people’s fear of public speaking comes from childhood experiences, particularly the experience of being bullied. We hear about extreme bullying cases in the media – the ones in which the victim can no longer stand it and takes his/her own life. But what gets a lot less attention is the long-term effect of being taunted and ridiculed in the school yard, in families and, unfortunately, at work.

So what?

Ray shares his own history of being bullied when he was growing up in Toronto and how judo helped him, then he provides a similar story about Jonathon, one of his students, and how judo brought him self confidence. So what’s all this got to do with public speaking and presentation training? Plenty, based on my experience.

A huge impact

What I’ve learned from clients over the years is that the things we hear about ourselves have a huge impact on our self esteem. We tend to become who people tell us we are – until, like Ray and Jonathon, we stand up for ourselves and redefine ourselves. Now, please note that I’m not saying we have to confront our bullies and overpower them. Sometimes that’s just not possible. Sometimes we have to endure. But what we don’t have to do is believe the negative things those people are saying about us.

My answer is “NO!!”

My favourite line from the book and movie The Help is “Am I gonna believe all them bad things them fools say about me today?” My answer is “NO!!” Bullies can say what they like about me but they can’t make me believe it if it isn’t true. I’ve been bullied and I won’t say that it could never happen again. But I can say that it would be a lot harder now to make me believe the garbage that some people can make up and throw at me than it was 30 years ago, or even 10 years ago.

I know who I am

Why? Because I have a strong, powerful vision of who I am and what I do for others. And my vision is based in reality. I know who I am – warts and all – I love myself just the way I am and I do my best to help other people to come to that same acceptance and self-approval.

Who do you think you are?

I’ve written before about the importance of knowing your topic,  and why value is more important than speaking skills. But, important as these things are, they are hinged to one essential presentation element: Who do you think you are? Because without a strong, positive image of yourself it will be difficult for you to be convincing.

What can you do?

So, what can you do about it? Well, when I work with clients one-on-one, we analyze the origins of their self image. And while it’s much easier for you to do that with another person, you can do some of it yourself. First, consider the source. Who was/is your bully? What were his/her motivations? Were the things he or she said fair and accurate or were they simply stones thrown at your ego in an attempt to bring you down to the bully’s level? How did those comments make you feel? Was the feeling justified at the time? Do you still carry those feelings about yourself? Are they justifiable in your present context?

The issue is self image

Really, this stuff isn’t rocket science; I wouldn’t understand it if it was. But I do understand when a bright, promising, capable person sits down in front of me in Ajax, Toronto or North York and tells me he or she has public speaking anxiety, in spite of their obvious significant abilities and qualifications. The issue is almost always one of self image. And it usually doesn’t take very long to unravel the source – often a bully or insensitive adult – who had significant influence at an early age.

From victim to victor

I applaud the work Ray is doing with kids who need to manage the physical elements of bullying. He’s helping them to raise their self image from victim to victor and he’s teaching them along the way that self respect is based on using power as a tool to protect, not a weapon to destroy. We can do the same for ourselves in dealing with the non-physical elements of bullying that can live long after physical wounds have healed.

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How to talk to a dying friend

This post is dedicated to my dear friend David, who passed away in Toronto on June 3, 2012

All the public speaking training and presentation training in the world does not prepare you for talking to a dying friend; at times like that you just have to find what you hope is going to work and use it.

I did my best

We got the call about 5pm on Sunday, June 3. David, my sister-in-law’s life partner, who had been unconscious for more than a week, was about to be taken off life support. An hour later I entered his room at the Toronto General Hospital to support her but I ended up doing my best to support both of them during a very difficult time.

That voice . . .

David had always been a slight man but the voice that had come out of that 135-pound frame had commanded attention. He’d had the voice I’d always wanted and the kind of projection that I encourage my public speaking workshop participants to develop. He’d have been a natural for radio but, interestingly, although his first job was with the Canadian Broadcasting Corporation, he never appeared on air, preferring the sales area, and he continued to work in sales with many companies throughout his 50-year career.

Silent

It was strange to see him lying there, connected to machines and silent. Because David was never silent. He l-o-o-o-ved (that’s the way he liked to pronounce it) to boom that voice at whomever was present and regale them with stories about the years he spent in New York, about his family members’ achievements and, of course, about his beloved Toronto Blue Jays.

Something he never said

But there was something he never told those people. No one knew that David had overcome a very serious stammer by using a very simple technique that works magic. He had discovered that if he paused before he spoke he could control his stammer.

No one heard

It was the very same technique that I teach in my public speaking training sessions to help speakers recover when they stumble during a presentation. He had perfected this technique to a point where no one heard the pauses and, during the rare occasions when the stammer slipped in, he was able to recover within a second or two.

Now he was silent

But now he was silent, a tube pushing air into his lungs, monitors graphing his bodily functions. We agreed that it was not a situation David would want to be in for long and so, after agonizing, my sister-in-law permitted his caregivers to turn the machines off and let nature take its course.

“Just keep talking”

His nurse came in and out a few times as she disconnected the machines that had been keeping him alive for more than a week. On one of those trips she smiled and said, “Just keep talking to him. He can hear you.” We looked at each other and my sister-in-law told him that the Blue Jays had won their most recent game, then turned to me and said, “I don’t know what to say . . .”

What should we say?

I knew how she felt. What should we say? I took his hand and thought about what would give him comfort in the final moments of his life and started. I don’t remember my exact words, but I do know that I told him how proud I was to have had him for a brother-in-law. I thanked him for taking such good care of my wife’s sister for the past 25 years. I said I knew his biggest concern would be for her and that he could rest easy because my wife and I would look after her for him. I reminded him that he had brought a great deal of comfort to others during their difficult times and now he could just relax and rest easy during his.

An audience of one

It was hard to know exactly when to stop talking, but I continued for as long as I thought he could hear me, at one point even saying that I would “try” to sit through a Blue Jays game for him (he knew I didn’t care much for baseball). In short, I tried to do what any speaker should do for any audience. I simply tried to think of what was most important to him and express it in a way that would comfort him. Comfort was the value I needed to provide to this audience of one.

A difficult subject

Death is a difficult subject for most of us, although it gets a little easier as we age and its inevitability becomes more obvious. I’ve talked before on this blog about talking to bereaved family and friends and now I’ve discovered, through personal experience, how to talk to loved ones who are in their final stages of life.

Farewell, my friend

I wish David well on his journey and I sincerely hope that the words and thoughts I shared with him gave him some comfort in his final moments.

Public Speaking training can reduce pessimism

A client mentioned recently during our public speaking training session in Toronto that she tends to be a pessimist and that she thought her tendency was affecting her public speaking ability. She asked me what she should do to turn that around.

Begin with awareness

I believe that change begins with awareness and acceptance of your current status, accompanied by deep-seated desire to change and a long-term commitment to move toward the status you want to reach. In my experience, permanent change is a gradual process. It takes time, it takes awareness and it takes patience. I think many of us are aware of our current status but we’re not aware of the limitations that our view of the world can place on us. That’s totally normal, by the way. We all develop perspectives on our lives. Those perspectives often limit us. And because they’ve been with us for so long, they just become part of our “reality”, even if our perception of “reality” is holding us back.

Work with strengths

Our early life experiences tend to define who we think we are. I know this because I have lived it, particularly when I was a young man from a small town who came to Toronto. But we can rise far beyond what anyone would have ever expected, based on our early-life trajectory to excel and do much more than we might ever have imagined. We simply have to recognize our strengths and work with them to move forward toward greater life potential and satisfaction, including the ability to speak confidently in public.

Perceptions persuade

Your perceptions can persuade you to withdraw from experiences in an attempt to protect someone you may have been at one time long ago. The problem is letting those old values and identifications get in the way of current reality. And the current reality may be that you are a mature, intelligent, sophisticated, powerful person whose old perceptions are no longer working for you and instead are working against you.

The hard part

So what can be done? Well, like I said, it begins with awareness and acceptance. Once you become aware and accept, you have to decide if you want to change. And that’s where the hard part begins. It’s hard because so many of us grew up in environments where people tried to hide who they were, expected others to take responsibility and leadership. Most of us grew up among followers, not leaders. That can make us afraid to take responsibility. In a community where those around us were directed by others, we never learn leadership. And that makes the concept of leadership a little intimidating and frightening, particularly in a large, highly competitive area like Toronto and the GTA.

People want leadership

Too often, capable people are concerned that if they excel and stand out from the crowd they will be considered “uppity” and “too big for your britches” by those around them. But here’s the dichotomy: Most people WANT leadership! They want someone strong up front to show them the way and to deal with the issues. They may carp, complain and criticize but they don’t want to be leaders themselves. Why? Because they’re terrified of taking responsibility.

Risk can be valuable

It took me a long to time to realize that. Sure, everyone wants to be on top but the problem is that most – almost all – of those people don’t want to take any risk. But life – real life, not just existence – is about risk. I’m not talking about foolish risk. I’m talking about researched, measured, responsible risk. If we never step up, we get left behind. Responsible risk can be a very valuable thing.

Create affirmations

So how do we get from pessimism to optimism and the confidence to speak in public? One good route is to create a list of positive affirmations and repeat them as often as circumstances allow. You can learn about positive affirmations here: http://www.vitalaffirmations.com/affirmations.htm. The article will suggest some affirmations but you can make up your own and they will probably be more powerful for you because they will relate directly to you.

Appreciate the good stuff

Please understand that affirmations are just meaningless mumbo jumbo if you just mouth them without feeling them. You need to look at yourself and your life, pick positive things and really appreciate them. Most of us take all the good stuff in life for granted and complain about what we don’t like. It should be the other way around. We should treasure the good stuff and take the bad stuff for granted because “stuff” is going to happen but, for the most part, we’re very well off. Positive affirmations are about really appreciating the good stuff.

It takes time

It takes time, it takes patience, it takes self-forgiveness when we slide back a bit. But if we’re really committed to making change in our lives it really is possible. Whether it’s public speaking in Toronto, skiing on the slopes, sky diving or just looking in the mirror and liking what you see no matter what’s happening around you, positive thoughts about the little things can take you a long way.

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About Thomas Moss

Thomas Moss is a speaker, writer and coach who provides business communications services, primarily in the Greater Toronto Area, including Oshawa, Whitby, Ajax, Pickering, Markham, Richmond Hill, Newmarket, Vaughan, Brampton and Mississauga. Service is also available outside of the GTA.

Difficult public speaking task successful

Hats off to the Duchess of Cambridge. She took on a difficult public speaking task recently and came through with shining colours.

She was a little nervous

“Kate”, as she’s known to most of us, delivered her first official speech at the East Anglian Children’s Hospice this week and, like most new speakers, she was a little nervous. Like most speakers, she struggled at the beginning, even though she undoubtedly worked with highly skilled presentation trainers and public speaking coaches. But she got through it fine and, overall, she did quite well.

She looked down at her notes

If I wanted to be hyper-critical, I could talk about how she looked down at her notes as much as she looked at her audience but for me, that was a small issue. She’s not accustomed to speaking in public. She is the future Queen of England and is therefore required to stick to her script to the letter and, as such, she knew that every word she spoke would be recorded, transmitted to millions of people, evaluated, assessed and criticized. Not your run-of-the-mill after-dinner address, even if she did have presentation training from top public speaking trainers.

A formidable group

She had plenty at stake and she knew it. Given that kind of pressure she did quite well, particularly given of the nature of the group she was speaking to. She was facing child residents of a hospice and their parents, knowing that those children would never mature, that those parents faced a future without their child; that this “precious time” as Kate referred to it, was short. What a formidable group to address as her first audience.

She stayed focused

Kate was very controlled. Partly because it’s her job to appear steadfast and strong. But I’ll bet that there was more than royal protocol running through her head as she prepared for and finally faced that audience. It’s an open secret that she and William hope to have their own child in the near future but, regardless of what private thoughts may have been on her mind, she stayed focused on the need to keep the audience’s attention on her royal visit rather than her unseen royal emotions.

She didn’t flinch

She could have so easily drifted into maudlin sentimentality or revealed her emotions, but she didn’t. It’s not easy for a woman who obviously loves kids to speak to terminally ill children and their parents as though they are any other group of parents and children. But she did it. Yes, she looked a little uncomfortable but she didn’t flinch.

Focus on her audience

Of course Kate has had plenty of public speaking training and we can expect that her presentation was heavily rehearsed. And I suspect that her presentation trainer helped her to contain her emotions. Her presentation trainer probably told her to focus on her audience, not on herself; and that what they felt would be more important than how she felt as she spoke.

Emotions can be difficult

We all have a duty to our audiences. After all, they are – or should be – the reason we’re up there in the first place. Emotions can be difficult to control. But sometimes they have to be squarely placed in the back seat while we navigate through what our audience needs to hear.

Stay focused

While it’s important in most instances to let our passion speak for us, as speakers, we have to recognize when it’s more important to stay focused on the message and to stick to it, regardless of how it makes us feel. You can see how Kate handled her challenge here.

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Protect your public speaking voice

I recently had a client who was training to deliver presentations to a number of divisions across Toronto and the GTA over a period of several days. The steady grind was taking a toll on his vocal chords and he asked what he could do to lubricate them.

Lots of dry throat remedies

Lubricating vocal chords just doesn’t come up very often very often in public speaking training, so of course, I did what everybody does these days: I Googled it. As always, there were lots of different opinions, and dry throat remedies, including a few that surprised me. And of course we have to take just about anything we read on the internet with a grain of salt until we’ve tried it ourselves or checked it out with someone we trust.

An interesting gargle

Speaking of salt, Dr. Van Lawrence, laryngologist for the Houston Grand Opera recommended the following gargle recipe: 1/2 tsp. of salt, 1/2 tsp. of baking soda, 1/2 tsp. of clear corn syrup, and 6 oz. of warmed, distilled water. He suggested that you gargle silently for two minutes, that you avoid rinsing and repeat this gargle as often as you need to. He also recommended drinking two quarts of water each day.

Saliva stimulators

But blues singer Isabella Snow has her own dry throat remedies. She says that water is only effective for a moment or two after drinking it, that nothing lubricates a throat better than saliva and nothing stimulates saliva production better than a sip of pineapple juice. If that’s not readily available, a bit of strawberry juice wins second prize, followed by honey and olives. The worst things you can drink, she says, are water, tea and beer. I’d add coffee to that list as well. You can learn more – and hear some of her blues styling here. If you listen to the clip at that link you’ll understand why she should know a thing or two about voice lubrication.

Last resort: water

In spite of what Snow says about water, if it’s the only lubricant you can easily turn to, I’d use it. I tried her pineapple juice alternative last week and it worked for me. But I don’t always have access to pineapple juice so my second choice would be water, consumed in small sips – just enough to lubricate my larynx, but not enough to bring on the need for a bio break in the middle of my presentation.

Probably the best approach is to experiment a bit to see what works best for you. You can buy expensive voice lubricants but if something as simple and inexpensive as pineapple juice, strawberry juice, baking soda and salt will work just as well or better, why not give them a try?

Vocal chords are delicate

One last suggestion: give your voice and your body plenty of rest. Remember that the vocal chords are just a set of muscles. But because they’re very delicate, they need proper care. And like any muscles, they can become strained. So if you’re doing your presentations over long distances that require traveling in dry atmospheres such as a commercial jet or train coach, be sure to keep your throat moist.

None for the road

Avoid excessive alcohol or coffee consumption and social situations like loud night clubs or sporting events where you may be tempted to strain your voice. And make sure you get plenty of rest. Rested vocal chords will perform better and longer than strained ones. And you’ll present your material with greater enthusiasm overall.

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About Thomas Moss

Thomas Moss is a speaker, writer and coach who provides business communications services, primarily in the Greater Toronto Area, including Oshawa, Whitby, Ajax, Pickering, Markham, Richmond Hill, Newmarket, Vaughan, Brampton and Mississauga. Service is also available outside of the GTA.

Presentation training vs. speech writing

I enjoy speech writing. It’s a little different from my public speaking and presentation training work but it uses a lot of the same principles. The difference is that I have to visualize my client doing the presentation or speech as I’m writing it. And for that, there’s nothing as valuable as good old face-face contact. My PWAC (Professional Writers Association of Canada) colleague Bonnie Zink recently posted a link about the process and she agreed to have me post her comments here as a guest blog:

No substitute for face-to-face

I’ve been writing speeches for many years. I have learned through experience that there is no substitute for a face-to-face (F2F) (or phone call) meeting with the client before one word is written or edited. I find out several things during the meeting that I don’t feel would be as easily captured via email.

Capture their personality

First, a F2F meeting allows me to get to know the presenter. I’ve found that writing speeches is an exercise in living in someone else’s head. I need to know their speech patterns. I need to know their mannerisms. I need to know how fast or slow they speak (helps with gauging word count later on). I need to know if they are naturally witty. This helps me capture their personality on paper through the words I choose to write on their behalf.

The presenter’s point of view

Second, the F2F allows me the time to get to know the material from the presenter’s point of view. We discuss key topics. We discuss time allowed for delivery. I find out what their favourite quotes are. We discuss the presenter’s favourite anecdotes that may be helpful in showing the audience the concepts we are writing about. I find out who the audience is. I find out many more valuable tid bits that are priceless when it comes to writing (or editing) the speech.

The details

Finally, a F2F allows the presenter and I to get to know, and agree upon, the details of the project. We discuss deadlines, language, rates, as well as research and writing time estimates.

No substitute

I believe that there really isn’t a substitute for the F2F meeting. Email is great during the work, but an initial hour or two of face time is priceless. I find out more in that hour spent with the client than I can via the phone or emails.

Well said, Bonnie

As I read what Bonnie had written I found myself nodding in agreement. The only thing I would add is that it’s a lot of fun to, as she puts it, “live inside someone else’s head”. I’m glad to hear that other writers enjoy the process as much as I do. For me, speech writing is right up there with presentation training and public speaking training.

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